Friday, July 14, 2006
Gender Neutral Kimonos?
Anyone have any advice/feelings about whether the kimono is appropriate for both genders? I knit one in cream with purple ribbon for an sex-to-be-revealed baby and the mom-to-be clearly indicated that her husband would not put a boy in it. I know the ribbons are, well, ribbon-y, and I offered to change them to blue it turned out she was having a boy. Truthfully though, we have a boy and would have put him in this as a baby. . . am I off my rocker?) Here's a pic, and there is more info on my blog. (www.wintrymix.typepad.com/wintry_mix.com)
How disappointing to put the effort into making a gift yourself to have it be less than fully appreciated.
Did she say whether it was the ribbon or the kimono itself that was the issue? Because it isn't as if kimonos themselves have some gender attached to them, but the ribbon seems harmless. And as you say, the ribbon could be exchanged.
Swap them for blue or green if it makes them happy, or buttons (loop closures could be added after the fact).
Around here, purple is good for boys too as lots of people are TCU fans and nuts about purple.
dd had a friend who had a baby boy and she was tickled to get some purple booties.
And I also agree that SOME men get way too caught up in what's girly or not!
You did a beautiful job and it was a lovely gift - no matter what her hubby thinks!
What these dads will find out is no matter how the babies are dressed, a large percentage of people will still ask the sex or call them the wrong one.
I used to take my daughter out in pink with pink hair ribbons and bows and invariably some bozo would say, "How old is he?" LOL
BTW, our daughter was adopted and we were expecting a boy. We had already stocked the nursery. There was a change of plans and we ended up with a girl (from a different birthmom.) We were thrilled as it made no difference to us...however she wore a lot of blue sleepers and dinosaur socks around the house!
Like Bliss said, it doesn't matter what they're wearing, people will call baby boys "she" and baby girls "he." I had my muddy little toddler in a dinosaur t-shirt and Spiderman shoes and people still described him as "an adorable little girl."
I have little patience for the concept that certain colors are reserved for certain genders. I'll admit to considering the those crazy rules when knitting for others because after all that time and effort, I want my handknits to be used!
But more importantly, I want my love and labor to go to those who appreciate my handcrafted creations. This couple would not receive any handknits from me. They don't get it. Perhaps when the child is old enough to assert some control over his wardrobe I might - at that point the gift is for the child. Handknits for babies are for the baby and the parents.
(Looking back, I could have just done the Cool Breeze because the blue/green/white/yellow is very gender-neutral. But it was great practice for me since I'm still a beginner.)
Anyway, my husband also flipped (a teeny bit, he's normally not a big gender-role guy) over the grosgrain ribbon. But I'm a new enough knitter I just told him I didn't know how to make a buttonhole, so if baby is a boy, too bad!
Now that I've read up on it, I wish I'd done a buttonhole on both of them instead. Seems pretty easy.
I can't imagine him saying it to someone who gave us one as a gift, though. shame.
Ribbons on the baby kimono are adorable. I think I'd like to do one with buttons, since button shopping is more fun than ribbon shopping for me.
Like the L.A. Lakers, for instance.
I think that the father has some issues with his own sexuality.
I feel sorry for his wife.
Me? I always use non-traditional colours when I make baby gifts.
The baby doesn't give a rat's ass what colour it's wearing.
Why should anyone else?